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Re: Still not feeling accepted around others...

Postby Shao Feng-Li » Wed May 01, 2013 12:21 am

dothackzero wrote:So anyone know of any good preachers that know how to deal with stuff like loneliness? Other than that my people skills are getting better, but part of the problem is that I'm just not meeting new people.


Sermon Audio tends to be a good place.
http://www.sermonaudio.com/search.asp?c ... word=Lonel
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Re: Still not feeling accepted around others...

Postby dothackzero » Thu May 02, 2013 9:11 pm

MrKrillz0r wrote:I have to ask though, is your focus really on God as you are going through this?


Honestly the core of it that I feel accepted by God but not by other people... Btw, I do accept myself. I do enjoy my time of solitude, I just don't want it be all the time.
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Re: Still not feeling accepted around others...

Postby theblackmist » Thu May 02, 2013 10:43 pm

I find http://www.meetup.com to be a good way to meet new people! And wow, this reminds me of how badly I was treated at my University in Florida (Stetson University).
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Re: Still not feeling accepted around others...

Postby Xeno » Fri May 03, 2013 7:52 am

dothackzero wrote:
MrKrillz0r wrote:I have to ask though, is your focus really on God as you are going through this?


Honestly the core of it that I feel accepted by God but not by other people... Btw, I do accept myself. I do enjoy my time of solitude, I just don't want it be all the time.

Enjoying being alone some times is not the same as accepting yourself.
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Re: Still not feeling accepted around others...

Postby Nate » Sat May 04, 2013 12:35 am

MrKrillz0r wrote:PIf you instead of looking at yourself would fix your eyes on Christ, and let him rule over your life, then this extreme need for intimacy would be satisfied.

I keep asking Jesus for intimacy but he always dodges the question. ;~; Do you think he thinks I'm fat? Or is it my beard?
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Re: Still not feeling accepted around others...

Postby Xeno » Sat May 04, 2013 5:16 pm

Nate wrote:
MrKrillz0r wrote:PIf you instead of looking at yourself would fix your eyes on Christ, and let him rule over your life, then this extreme need for intimacy would be satisfied.

I keep asking Jesus for intimacy but he always dodges the question. ;~; Do you think he thinks I'm fat? Or is it my beard?

It's your eyebrows. Gotta pluck 'em bro.
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Re: Still not feeling accepted around others...

Postby Mr. SmartyPants » Sat May 04, 2013 10:28 pm

Yeah I'm not into those bushy eyebrows, Nate. If you plucked them then you'd see me far more frequently. ;)
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Re: Still not feeling accepted around others...

Postby Ante Bellum » Sat May 04, 2013 10:49 pm

MSP is Jesus?
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Re: Still not feeling accepted around others...

Postby dothackzero » Thu May 09, 2013 11:14 pm

So then what do I do to fix the root problem of loneliness? I mean I already have good relationship with God where I can talk to him about anything and everything I need or want too. So it's not a lack of relationship with God.
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Re: Still not feeling accepted around others...

Postby K. Ayato » Fri May 10, 2013 4:51 am

Have you even told Him about this? <_<
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Re: Still not feeling accepted around others...

Postby dothackzero » Fri May 10, 2013 7:29 am

K. Ayato wrote:Have you even told Him about this? <_<


Pretty much daily.
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Re: Still not feeling accepted around others...

Postby K. Ayato » Fri May 10, 2013 10:28 am

Are you being honest in your conversations with Him? By that, I mean holding absolutely nothing back.
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Re: Still not feeling accepted around others...

Postby dothackzero » Fri May 10, 2013 4:04 pm

K. Ayato wrote:Are you being honest in your conversations with Him? By that, I mean holding absolutely nothing back.


He's my daddy, so of course I'm not holding anything back.
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Re: Still not feeling accepted around others...

Postby Xeno » Fri May 10, 2013 4:08 pm

dothackzero wrote:So then what do I do to fix the root problem of loneliness? I mean I already have good relationship with God where I can talk to him about anything and everything I need or want too. So it's not a lack of relationship with God.

See a psychiatrist.

Or you know...just keep doing what you've been doing.
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Re: Still not feeling accepted around others...

Postby dothackzero » Sat May 11, 2013 5:55 pm

So would getting to point where I know getting a girlfriend won't fix my loneliness but still want one anyway. While I'm searching out for friends, while I'm searching out doing other things to get rid of my loneliness? Because right now starting to look like a lot of will have to do with finding self confidence/self value by knowing who I am in Christ.
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Re: Still not feeling accepted around others...

Postby Xeno » Sat May 11, 2013 7:09 pm

No, you need to work on figuring your stuff out independent of whether there is a spooky magic deity running space or not. Your problem, and a lot of people's problems, is that you get so caught up in these weird and obscure sects of Christianity that screw with your heads and how you view reality. Figuring out how to deal with your life by yourself is what you need to do. You have no coping mechanisms. If all you do is pray to someone who is inevitably going to always back up what you want, you will not grow. If you can't make real progress instead of just coming back here over and over again looking for some back patting because you're still lonely and can't get over it, then get out and stay out.
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Re: Still not feeling accepted around others...

Postby K. Ayato » Sat May 11, 2013 7:54 pm

Get it through your head that there's no quick-fix solution.
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Re: Still not feeling accepted around others...

Postby dothackzero » Sat May 11, 2013 8:04 pm

K. Ayato wrote:Get it through your head that there's no quick-fix solution.


I never said that I thought it would be a quick solution. What I was asking was that in the mind set that knowing having a girlfriend/wife won't fix the loneliness, but still wanting one a lot better position to be in while looking. Then just being looking and thinking that getting one will fix the whole problem with nothing else.
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Re: Still not feeling accepted around others...

Postby Xeno » Sat May 11, 2013 8:12 pm

get out
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Re: Still not feeling accepted around others...

Postby dothackzero » Tue May 14, 2013 7:51 pm

So yeah, remember the girl I was thinking about calling for months. Well, I've finally called her, though we didn't have a chance to hang out today. Hopefully will be able to tomorrow. ^_^
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Re: Still not feeling accepted around others...

Postby Vilo159 » Wed May 15, 2013 8:44 pm

dothackzero wrote:So yeah, remember the girl I was thinking about calling for months. Well, I've finally called her, though we didn't have a chance to hang out today. Hopefully will be able to tomorrow. ^_^

Instead of leaving it to maybes, why don't you call her and work out a date? Even if its not for a week or two, at least its set in stone then. It takes a bit of priority. But when you say, " Oh, how about today?" its too sudden to take precedence over whatever else they have. Call her up again, and see if you can set up a date for say, friday the 24th. Or this saturday. Or anything, really. Find a date and make an official plan with her, otherwise it's probably not going to ever happen. And if it does, the lack of planning will make it not go as well as it could.

And after you've called and set an official date and time, think of stuff to do. Have a backup plan as well. Drawing a blank and sitting awkwardly until one of you thinks of something isn't too fun, and doesn't make you look that great either.
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Re: Still not feeling accepted around others...

Postby dothackzero » Wed May 15, 2013 10:01 pm

I would, but all my friends including her are last minute people. So we basically have to work things out in the last couple of hours before we hang out. Besides, I'm looking for to hang with her with my group of friends for now, and eventually goto her group of friends since mine are mostly leaving a few months. But yeah don't worry, I'm only looking at her as a friend. Not someone I'm just gonna go out and date.

So yeah, I was gonna hang out with her tonight my cousin couldn't hang out tonight. So plans fell through, and I left behind a awkward text basically saying that nothing is going on tonight, and we should probably try again next week. Which is kinda stupid since I'm gonna be in church tomorrow, and she is a church girl.

Basically, I'll probably be nervous and carefull about this until we can hang out outside of church and with friends and have a fairly constant thing. After that I should be able to settle down and not be so nervous about this...
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Re: Still not feeling accepted around others...

Postby Xeno » Wed May 15, 2013 10:46 pm

dothackzero wrote:I would, but all my friends including her are last minute people. So we basically have to work things out in the last couple of hours before we hang out.

lol, that's p funny. i too like setting myself up for failure.
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Re: Still not feeling accepted around others...

Postby Davidizer13 » Thu May 16, 2013 6:02 pm

Dude, just take the lead on this. Be proactive for a change, make up a plan for what you're going to do beforehand instead of bumbling around trying to come up with one on the spot. It makes people think you care about what's going on, too.
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Re: Still not feeling accepted around others...

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